what am I doing wrong?

I am a (M40) IMO resonably good looking, own my own place 50fm2 apartment in a downtown area, childless and have a steady income. But I can't seem to find my footing in the whole dating scene. I have tried both tinder and smitten, but the only matches I get is someone promoting their instagram or some single mom who is looking for a cheap thrill or whatever and I am kind of giving up hope. I took some time after a difficult time in my life to focus on myself and get into hobbies I had been wanting to get into and just recently been trying to get back into the dating scene, I have tried going out for a few drinks but I am not quite comfortable approching women out on the town being that most of them seem to be around half my age and when I try I usually get the claws. Is anyone out there willing to give me some pointers? I am at a point of giving up on the whole thing and focus on my hobbies until I die😄