How do some of y'all end up with neurotypical partners??

I know this is a strange question

But everyone around me is on the ADHD spectrum or has ASD. It wasn't even intentional! Maybe because I was in performing arts and hospitality maybe it attracts people like me?!?

Like we were just get each other. We would be okay if we were late or interrupted each other or had deep intensive interest that we can go on and on about or being messy. Or making so many small mistakes. Or being forgetful

Or having to do extreme things at a young age because if not your boredom will set in and you'll feel miserable. Like other people thought we were too much.

Like I understood constantly being misunderstood for things .I said

It's crazy that many of my friends are suspecting and getting diagnosed with ASD and ADHD .And my current boyfriend has a severe ADHD and I'm pretty sure my last boyfriend was on the ASD spectrum. ( Did not understand sarcasm, incredibly sensitive to lights and smells, monotone speech, deep intrinsive research on a lot of topics). Etc. My older siblings have ASD. My younger brother has ADHD too.

It's crazy because even our own ADHD might bother each other sometimes. Like couldn't even imagine having a close relationship with Nuerotypicals. I couldn't even begin. They will take your symptoms as you intentionally not giving a fuck about them.

I know this is extreme but I don't think I'll ever be in a relationship/friendship with someone who doesn't have ADHD or ASD.

Like it's too much of a pain in the ass and the the criticism and the rejection is incredibly hurtful. I make so many mistakes I don't need another voice telling me I'm lazy, inconsiderate and selfish.

But how do guys do it????