Can’t tell if My Girlfriend genuinely has a Low Libido or is Low Libido FOR Me…

My (25, HLM) girlfriend (24, LLF) and I have been together for almost 2 years and have been living together for just over a year now (yes, I know we decided to cohabit quite quickly)!

When we first starting dating, we had sex fairly regularly (to the point where we were having sex in in her car, at her parent’s house while they were home and even at her friend’s house while they were home)…Now, I’m not mentioning these things to brag - in fact, if I’m being honest, I’m not proud to admit any of this whatsoever…I just wanted to list what you could call some of our past “sexual adventures” to try to put into perspective how much we both sought intimacy with each other.

Fast forward to about 7 months or so of us living together, I started to notice that we began having sex more infrequently than frequently and completely out of nowhere. At this point, anything pertaining to any form of intimacy is a rare occurrence - we last had sex well over a month ago now and prior to that, we hadn’t had sex in 3 months…We’ve had sex once in 2023…I know that I’m not exactly in a completely dead bedroom, but our bedroom is definitely on life support. I honestly hate to sound ignorant, even in the slightest, but I personally cannot fathom how a couple that are in their mid-20s have the sex life of a married couple in their 70s…

It took me awhile, but I’ve brought myself to having “the talk” with her twice since we’ve been together. The very few times that we’ve spoken about our sex life, she simply tells me that she “never was the type to crave sex”, that she “can go months without having it”, and “sex isn’t everything in a relationship”. However, as of late, there are some things that are seriously starting to make me question whether or not my girlfriend genuinely has a low libido overall and doesn’t just have a low libido for me...

• She never initiates sex anymore. (She used to, but stopped months ago. I used to initiate, but stopped initiating months ago as well as a result of her rejecting me 99% of the time).

• Whenever I used to decide to simply downright ask her if she wanted to have sex, she’d typically respond with something along the lines of “maybe” or “I’m down later”. (95% of the time, it’d never happen).

• Sometimes when we’re engaging in foreplay or one of us is performing oral sex on each other, she’ll abruptly stop and tell me that she doesn’t want to have sex anymore. (This has happened a few times and typically, her reasoning is because she’s tired, but she’ll usually end up staying awake watching TV or using her phone for over an hour. There was one particular instance where she told me her reasoning was because she was tired, but then immediately began using her phone for over an hour. At one point, I asked her if she was still tired and she responded with “no”, but seemed to quickly correct herself and change her response to “yes”).

• She’ll sometimes say to me “I can’t wait to have sex with you one day”. (She’s said this to me a few times now and every time, I’m left speechless and honestly don’t quite know what to say in response without responding with something negative, evoked from resentment or anger).

• She’ll masturbate when I’m asleep. (I don’t mind that she masturbates whatsoever, but as of late, I’ve started to find it somewhat weird that she only seems to do so while I’m asleep. I’ve woken up and caught her masturbating a few times now).

I feel like I may sound a bit overboard, but at this point, all of my unanswered questions that I’ve been thinking about are starting to drive me to thinking like this…Again, I personally, genuinely, cannot fathom how a couple that are in their mid-20s have such a nonexistent sex life…

The thing that bothers me the most, is that in every other aspect other than sex, we seem to be more than compatible! We’re both equally super loving, affectionate, and supportive of each other, but I’m starting to feel like her and I are just roommates given the lack of intimacy. She also seems to be genuinely completely unfazed by the lack of intimacy in our relationship…

Any advice?

Thank all of you in advance! I hope you’re all having a great Friday!