So I found myself here
The thoughts of being with a woman have flooded my mind (and soul lol) & it’s become so intense lately. I know I need to discover myself. I’m pretty much a girl virgin (little experience and that was years ago). I don’t know how to go about finding someone to unleash some desires and feel the touch of what I’ve been dreaming about for so long now. Any advice? In the New England area :)
Posted Mar 17, 2023, 2:03 PM UTC
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I was in your exact same place for at least a year until I finally just did the scary thing and got on the dating apps. I was honest with the women I was exchanging messages with about my lack of experience and eventually clicked well enough with someone that she was willing to go out with me even though I’m still figuring my sexuality out. We’ve been dating for a month or so now and it’s been amazing! All I can say is be honest, communicate and when you get nervous just try to be brave because it’s so worth it :)
Can I ask, how did this come up in convo? Did you bring it up? Them? When? Is it weird to ask about this in the initial convos? I haven’t really dated in 10+ years let alone women
So when we were first messaging (on hinge) she asked what brought me to the dating apps and I took that opportunity to just be fully transparent about my situation. Told her basically that I hadn’t dated in a while because I was trying to figure myself out/work on my mental health but I was really starting to crave some physical intimacy in my life again and that I was open to a relationship if it felt like that’s where things were going. I said that I’m new to dating women and understand if that’s a no go for her but that I was really hoping it wasn’t because she’s a total babe and I’d love to meet her. She said she appreciated the transparency and that she wasn’t scared off by it. The rest is history ;)
I think honesty and confidence is attractive and the right women will respond well to it, also you don’t want to be with a woman who doesn’t want to be patient and communicative with someone who’s newer to this.