F28 M23 I want to get over this relationship. Any Advice?

Long post warning Hey all, so my now ex boyfriend(M23) and I (F28) just broke up a few days ago while on vacation. We were together for about a year and a half and this isn’t our first break up but it feels like this is the REAL one. Backstory before I get to the recent events We met on Tinder September 2021, linked October 2021 and have been dating one another exclusively ever since. When we first met he had literally just moved to NYC and I live in Philly so we’ve been long distance this whole time but both going back and forth every weekend or when we have weekdays off. When we first met he was broke and unemployed for about the first 9 months of our relationship but now works at a world renowned investment firm (GS). During that time I of course, was paying for everything plus giving him money just to have.

Most of our arguments/breakups were because of my lack of showing affection to him (which was very much true) and my lack of sex drive sometimes amongst a few other minor things. I eventually saw how much it was damaging our relationship and fixed every single issue he had with me so it’ll work but for some reason it was never good enough for him. He also had some things I needed him to fix like stop starting arguments over minor things, his anger, and his inability to take accountability. None of which was fixed the entire duration of the relationship.

Recent events For Xmas I bought him around 4 presents, I got nothing until a week after. He told me he didn’t like any of the presents I got him and was basically really ungrateful. Valentines Day all I got was a text. Let’s fast forward to the beginning of March 2023. I went to NYC for the weekend, we had an amazing day but once it was later that night at our favorite restaurant things got heated. We were discussing best relationships (he asked first) and I said mine was this one. In response he told me that he hasn’t had a best relationship yet which naturally hurt my feelings. This turned into us arguing in the restaurant, me crying and taking back the iphone 14 pro max I gifted him the day before then ultimately him splitting the bill and leaving me at the restaurant. When I got back to his house, he simple bought my suitcase and book bag downstairs and slammed the door in my face. Mind you, at this point it’s around 11pm. I got home, the weekend concludes and we foolishly make up.

Vacation drama Keep in mind this trip was only planned because it was for my daughter’s birthday (12yr). Let me say, this was our first vacation together since this man has never been on a plane. Let me also say that I paid for a majority of the trip. The most he paid for was his checked bag, 2 Ubers and some poolside drinks. Honestly the entire trip was great up until the second to last day at the water park. He was acting like his normal self, hugging and kissing all over me, holding hands etc regular things people in love do. The issue came when we stopped to get amusement park food which we all know is really mediocre and really expensive. While eating I mentioned how low quality amusement park food is for the price they charge (I paid $70 for 4 chicken tender meals no drinks included). This triggered him for some reason. He mentioned how I’m bringing everyone’s mood down because of what I said. I apologized, we all finished eating then started walking to the next water ride. I turned around and saw him walking the opposite way but because I didn’t want to ruin the kids’ day I brushed it off and we proceeded to have fun without him for a while. During that time he found us in the park again but ignored us and acted like he didn’t know us. After a while, myself, my daughter and her friend were walking again and I saw him and let him know what ride we were headed to next. He got pissed and grabbed and twisted my arm so hard that my daughter scream at him to let me go. After that he stormed off again and went to the hotel alone. Hours later I return, he’s there, says nothing, then leaves for hours. After he returns again, he’s giving me the silent treatment but on the phone with his sister talking crap about me. I intervene and we have a screaming match for about 10 minutes. During that time I was called multiple names and continuously disrespected while the kids were in the hotel/condo. I sleep with the bedroom door locked while he voluntarily sleeps on the couch. Next day, it’s time to fly home. I send him his ticket like he asked and he leaves early in the morning although our flight doesn’t take off until the afternoon. He texts me and tells me to change my seat so we aren’t sitting together, I refuse because I paid and I tell him to change his instead. He obliged. At the airport we’re at the same gate but he’s acting like we’ve never met before. Like he wasn’t the same man just 2 days before asking me to marry him and have his babies… when we landed I was ignored again besides him getting in my face at baggage claim aggressively asking if I’m going straight home so he can retrieve his things he left. I tell him I am and I leave. 20 minutes after I arrive home he knocks and I bring down all his things, not allowing him to come inside. He leaves and we don’t speak. Yesterday I sent him a paragraph of how I felt about everything. No response. Last night I call him via FaceTime audio but I’m met with yelling because I disconnected his phone earlier that day since he said he wants nothing to do with me (it’s on my account), also during which he yelled “find a dad for your daughter” and “I don’t wanna be with you anymore”. He also had girls texting me and calling me about cutting his phone back on that day.

Now I really want to forget this entire relationship and him. Of course I’m a little hurt by everything that happened and I just don’t know what set him off like this. I don’t want to reach out or reconcile because I don’t like the toxic mess. What should I do? Any advice?