Did you always have to communicate how you wanted to be loved?

If men need clear & concise instructions, especially after being with someone long term on how to seduce them, turn them on, etc., then what about the early days when they didn't have to communicate so clearly?

I see a lot of folks responding to me saying how men don't understand, and they need very clear instructions on what to do and how to do it. I call bullshit. When you meet someone, you fall into 'like' with them, communication couldn't be murkier because you're both infatuated. Or, is communication actually defined as something else in those early days? What are men forgetting about those days that after years with someone, they just suddenly don't understand and almost need written instructions spelling out how to love their partner?

Or...is it because we just change? Maybe it is the chemicals and once that wears off, suddenly we don't know how to love anymore the way we used to. Maybe it's stress, getting older, or all of the above.

This isn't exclusive to men or cis-men, but using it as an example for the purpose of this post and from the majority of posts I've seen.

What do you think?