I need advice please

For starters, I’m willing to take any and all criticism and hate that we rightfully have earned from our actions. We just genuinely need guidance on how to proceed from here.

(I’m in mobile so please forgive any spelling errors)

So, one of our alters, we’ll call her K, cheated on our partner system. But none of us were aware until today. No one in our system, including the primary hosts and gatekeepers knew what was going on between her and our friend until today. The only one who knew was her caretaker F, who kept it from the rest of us.

Our partner said they need time and don’t want to break things off for now. But I’m stuck between whether or not I should be angry at myself and the rest of our system, or her and F for doing this in the first place. I’m so lost and I’ve apologized and we’ve talked about it with our partner. But still, we’ve cut off the friend after he made some off kilter responses to us requesting not to be friends anymore.

Also if it adds any information, K is a little, shifts between 8 and 18, and the person she cheated with knew we were a system and knew she was a little. She wasn’t 18 at the time of the incidents.

Any advice, criticism, or opinions are welcome.

• Tim (host)