Why does everyone ignore the fact the Melissa DID come on the show because of Teresa and its low-key messed up?

Whether you’re team Teresa on Melissa in the RHONJ fandom, I would think most people would see thats its a little fucked up for Melissa to joint a show Teresa is on when she knows they don’t get along. However, when this is brought up on the show its always played off as though Teresa is self centered or evil but honestly I think its super valid? Whether she warned her or not, both Melissa (and Kathy) joined a show knowing that the family drama would come to light (which only took approximately 30 seconds into season 3.) This isn’t like Teresa getting mad they go to the same hair salon. Melissa went out of her way to get on the show. She didn’t just stumble into this franchise. The Gorgas filmed an audition video for a show staring the sister in law they don’t speak to? Im not team teresa but that stunt by the Gorgas deserves some major side eye. Thoughts?