I'm wondering if my SM is really my TF, and the guy who I thought was my TF is really a (karmic) soulmate instead

The guy who I thought was my TF "Brandon" isn't a bad guy, just dumb. He told people he liked me when he had a girlfriend, and even though he clearly never meant to lead me on, I was still lead on and that really hurt. We haven't spoken in nearly three years. I don't know if I'll ever see him again. From what I can tell online, as a single guy, he's very into the hookup culture. I harbor all this anger towards him, and I fantasize about getting revenge on him all the time, which is so confusing because a part of me still loves him.

I met my SM "Timothy" on the first day of a new job, a year after meeting Brandon. We got along fast because we both grew up in the same hometown and we have the same career goals. My mom called and asked me how my first day was, and I told her about Timothy, saying that we "bonded over our parallel lives". With Timothy, love just feels easy. It doesn't feel painful like it does with Brandon. But things aren't perfect. He does have some slight jealousy and control issues, but he goes to therapy weekly. But we care about each other. I know that no matter what happens, we're always going to have each other's back.