I've been in a LDR with my boyfriend for five years and he wants me to move to his state (I can't afford college there) rather than him moving to mine because he doesn't want to leave his friends. Advice wanted...

We are both in our mid-20's. We have visited each other many times and have lived under the same roof for whole summers, so we get along very well. However, I am getting tired of not having a constant in-person relationship and want one of us to move to the other's state. We are having lots of conflict about who should move where, though.

If he moved to my state, he would be able to afford going to college here because he receives lots of Financial Aid and because tuition is very cheap in my state. However, he does not want to move here -- ever -- because he doesn't want to leave his childhood friends behind.

Instead, he wants me to move for him. I would not be able to afford out-of-state tuition at all (literally over $1000/credit) at his city's university, so I would have to wait a year to gain residency before even thinking of attending college. Even after gaining residency, I would have to be working full-time and have to progress very slowly (3 classes max per semester) in order to afford it.

There is the option of waiting until I graduate from my local university. If college was out of the picture, I might consider moving there, but it would make me feel like a tool because he wouldn't do the same for me due to being so attached to his friends. I've never had such a close relationship to his friends like he has, though. He's had these friends since kindergarten, so they mean a lot to him. But it's as if he values them more than he values me, and I'm not sure if that's acceptable....

I guess my question is, how unreasonable (or not) is it for him to not want to move for me due to him having his friends in his city? Is it 'acceptable' for someone's friends to be so important that their significant other isn't the most important factor?