I am considering pursuing an actual relationship for the first time in two years. I am having some qualms about introducing him to parts of my life - specifically my sex life.

I will keep this as short and detailed as possible.

I do not keep boyfriends. I flee at the first sign of emotion and have done this since ending a long term relationship over two years ago.

I met someone that I have been dating for over a month now. He is very sweet - nicer than anyone I have dated before.

This is my complaint - he is very sweet.

I am not attracted to sweet men.

I like getting whipped with riding crops or choked while getting fucked. There is someone else I sleep with to fulfill this side of me. If I end up pursuing monogamy, I would have to end this sexual relationship. I fear I will be sexually repressed by pursuing monogamy with this nice guy.

I don't want to fault the guy but he is just too nice for me. Do I tell him? If so, how do I address what I want in our sex life?

I was considering taking him to this bdsm night at a bar where I've been publicly whipped in a show. I do not want to flee from this one but I find myself leaning toward my normal habit of dropping them quickly.