Going out advice for a grown up

Hi,

I would love some help figuring out what to wear out to parties and bars. I am 27 and have fair skin and curly dark brown hair. I love dresses, skinny jeans, and am comfortable with dramatic looks. I used to go out a lot in college but haven't gone out much in five years. In college I used to wear jeans+sleeveless v neck top out all the time, but that feels a little tired to me right now.

I am a grad student and don't want to look too done up, but at the same time I like to look good. I am 5'7, 130ish pounds, and a very leggy hourglass. I am comfortable showing off my body but live in a temperate city and get cold easily.

Basically, what can I wear to look good going out without looking like I am trying too hard?