My husband duck is too big

Okay, it’s not that he’s too big. I’m just too small! Before I got pregnant, he was large but it was manageable but NOW it’s like I’m ripped every single time and it hurts so much. (I’m 7 months postpartum now). My husband is getting to the point he’s making comments like he won’t have sex with me anymore. It’s not his fault or mine BUT we need to find a happy medium because I don’t want him finding pleasure from someone else and I want to enjoy my husband without being ripped each time. Lube didn’t help condoms didn’t help. Bare balling it hasn’t helped. I need a sex therapist or a new vagina 🧐🙃🥲