I tried to be honest
reddit.com/gallery/152zrw2Posted Jul 18, 2023, 2:19 PM UTC
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She was exceptionally patient with you and you kept pushing. Good for her for sticking to her comfort zone.
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Pushing? I was content with waiting two weeks
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Both your replies were kinda rude imo. The last one was the one you can’t get back from, it basically said if and when I see a future I will play along. You do not come across very nice to me..
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Bro you blew this. Sounds like she is busy and has stuff to do, but still would have chatted with you. That’s ok more for the rest of us!
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Nah dude this was real dumb on your part. Someone who travels/ works a lot is looking for someone to be patient and understanding. You just showed you’re neither of these things.
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She seemed pretty interested in talking to you and it’s only two weeks I would have probably kept messaging and talking until she came back and then set up a date or something
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Enough interest to wait two weeks without talking?
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She said that you guys can till talk and face time while she’s away so it’s not like you guys are just not gonna talk to each other for two weeks
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What is wrong with you? You come off incredibly pretentious and like a real dick. She dodged a bullet.
Just being honest.
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Is the pretense hers or mine
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Yours. Dude, you need to rethink your entire mindset and approach, or the reasons you’re single now will be why you’re single for a long time.
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She wanted to talk to you and you really said "sounds boring"
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Man.. ya know what.. you might catch a lot of flack for this, but it’s the beauty of online dating. At least you were honest and not a total jerk. You might’ve missed a good one, but hey, what’s good for me ain’t good for everybody. And like she said, “good luck on finding the right person.”
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Jesus, why are you trying to make this harder than it already is?? You SHUT DOWN an amazing sounding woman, who gave off really positive vibes and banter, then proceded to tell her LITERALLY that texting with her "sounds boring." I can't. You had a keeper fish and tossed her back, that's on you.
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She was trippin lol. No way I would be texting back and forth for two weeks with a complete stranger who isn’t available to meet. The not being able to video call sounds like a catfish, too. Strange.
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She was able to video call, just not immediately…
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I think “sounds boring” was really rude but I’m with you on this. I have zero interest in texting someone I’ve not met for two weeks. I get bored out of my skull asking a stranger how their day was, and I just can’t muster up the enthusiasm to have deep conversations with one either. There are a billion other things I’d rather do.
I would’ve said something like “I prefer not to text extensively before meeting, but I’d love to take you out when you’re back”. I understand the sentiment but your delivery really really sucked
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Yikes
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I don’t see a problem with how this ended?
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Sounds like you’re interested in her when there’s a possibility of a meet/sex but you’re not actually interested in getting to know her at all.
I can’t believe you actually said talking to her sounds boring and labelling it as “honesty”. It’s rudeness.
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Most people who claim to be “honest” really mean “tactless, rude, and selfish.”
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Boring == challenging and texting isn’t for me
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Women want a man who knows how to communicate.
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And a man who knows how to communicate with a women knows it’s not done over text
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Life gets busy. People have responsibilities and obligations that they have to meet. Sometimes texting and facetime are the best they can manage in a pinch.
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It is if you’re attracted to her, you find her profile interesting, and she tells you she’s interested and gives you her time parameters and her needs regarding communication. You’re lazy. You don’t deserve her. Good luck.
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I don’t even know what this is supposed to say.
You can’t view dating apps like Amazon Prime delivering women within 48hours. You need to be more patient and willing to compromise. Lots of women want to build rapport before meeting a strange man online.
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“Until after we’ve established a vibe” = after we’ve fucked.
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I guess it’s a lesson learned, maybe to get to know someone but as the cricket fans might say around here, mate you dropped a sitter.
As to how I’d have played it, this situation is perfect for me I want to get to know people a bit and I want her to feel comfortable meeting me. I’d be in like Flynn for chatting, facetiming the whole kit and kaboodle. It’s about her, y’know???
Good luck on the next one.
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You definitely could’ve been more tactful but I also would not have been down for weeks of texting with someone I’ve never met. I find it exhausting 🤷♂️
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I get it man, don’t listen to these fools. Why text for two weeks when they could suck in person? If you can meet after a few days of chit chat with then your just investing time and energy to someone who may be a weirdo in person
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I would have played this with less aggro asshole and more class.
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That's some exceptional 'man-child' energy going on there. Not everyone will always be available to meet within 2 days notice. It seems you expect people to put a random stranger above their life and threw a hissy fit because they didn't.
A grown up response would've been to take an interest in the reasons she will be busy, agree to meet in two weeks and keep chatting. You haven't met or are dating, so it's quite OK to talk to or meet other people in the meantime, but your response was childish and petulant
My response is and still is; I have no problem waiting 2 weeks, however, I won’t be texting during those two weeks
You don't have to worry about texting her again, you killed it the moment you acted childish. My response is, and still is, major man-child energy.
The one that will still be there chatting in 2 weeks is the one worth her time, you aren't worth her time.
Meanwhile, she's dodging bullets like Neo
You think you’re tough, but in reality you’re the sensitive little b playing games…
Superrr man-child energy. Yikes.