My boyfriend (23m) seems to have no interest in having a romantic relationship with me (23f)

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now. We do the typical go out to dinner every once in awhile and go out to do things with friends, but that’s about the extent of it. This is how it’s been since we first started dating, and I always wanted to step outside of the box and do some different things sometimes. So, for his birthday the first year we were together, I bought a fun date book where you scratch off hidden date ideas, complete the date, take a Polaroid and write a little note about your date and it essentially turns into a scrapbook of all your past dates. I thought it was the cutest thing ever and was so excited to use it and have it to look back on when we’re older.

We never touched it. Didn’t even open the box until a few months later when I begged him to just open it up and look at it. I constantly would ask if we could pick one out to scratch off and do the date, but we never did. I have no idea where the book even is anymore. Last Christmas, I found a little box of weekly date ideas. Seemed more simple, you didn’t have to take pics/write notes, so I thought we’d be more likely to do it. Nope, that was 9 months ago and we only did one. I opened every date just to see what was in it and try to pick ones that I thought he’d like. Other than a movie night at home, we didn’t do anything else from it.

I’m the type of person who loves to go do things outside. Go on a hike/walk, have a picnic, go swimming, go bowling, four-wheeling, visit an orchard, go to a fair, etc. I could understand if he was just the complete opposite and never liked doing those things and was more of a homebody, but he’s not. We’ve gone bowling with friends. We’ve gone to go kart tracks with friends. We’ve taken beach trips with friends. We’ve gone swimming at friends houses. He just won’t do anything with JUST me. And when we’re out to dinner just the two of us, or sitting at home on the couch watching a movie (those are about the only two things we ever do) he hardly gets off his phone.

The reason why I’m so upset is because he’s done things with all of his exes. Aside from the fact that we’ve known each other for our entire lives and I’ve seen his posts sharing things he’s done with his previous girlfriends, I’ve also seen his Snapchat memories when we’ve looked at them together, usually just to see his old vehicles, or dogs, etc but sometimes there’d be old pictures and videos of things he’d do with his old girlfriends that he would quickly skip passed. They’d go to festivals, concerts, go trail riding, go on trips together, go on hikes together. All the things that I ask to do, but he won’t do with me.

Most recently, I found an old jar of date ideas in his room that must’ve been moved out from somewhere else as I’d never seen it before. They looked like they’d actually been used based on all of them being opened/slightly bent up like they’d been digging around in the jar a lot. When I asked him about it, he told me that his mom just gave it to him for him and I to do after his parents used it. Okay, cool, another things we’ll never use but that was nice of his mom. But this morning, he sent me a Snapchat memory from before we ever even dated. That jar was sitting on his nightstand, meaning he lied to me about it and it had been him and his exes, and I’d assume he actually used it with her.

I’ve brought up the fact that it bothers me that we never really do much, but he always says that he’s tired after working all day and doesn’t have much energy to go out and do things and he’s rather just relax with me. He’s also told me that his exes have always made the plans and told him what to do and he just went along with it. However, whenever I try to do that, he’s reluctant and either doesn’t want to do it or he’s miserable the entire time that we’re doing it. I’m all about quality time and we do not get that. I’m at a loss. I don’t understand why he would do these things with other girls, but not with me when I’m constantly begging to go out and do something new. (By constantly, I mean once or twice a month, I don’t hound him daily for this stuff)

Im not sure if I’m wrong for being so bothered by this? This doesn’t feel normal to me? We’re still young, we don’t get home super late from work, our weekends are normally free, I feel like we should be doing things but he makes me feel like I’m being unreasonable for wanting to do so much. Meanwhile, he was literally out doing all this stuff with other girls just months before we started talking. I just don’t know if it’s worth bringing up again, if I should just give up and move on, or if I really am just being unreasonable at this point in our lives. I really do love him and love being with him, but I feel like we’re seriously lacking in the quality time department and I’m not sure how to address it.

TLDR; my boyfriend had no problem going on more “adventurous” dates with his exes, but won’t do anything more than dinner and movies with me even after being together for two years, no matter how many times I ask. Is this something I should bring up again, or is it not even worth it?