How do I drop hints to my friend that I'm not interested in him

I (21 F) have this friend (22 M). We've been friends for almost a year now and a few weeks or months (I don't remember) after meeting him he confessed that he fancied me. I told him that I don't feel that way about him, he seemed to take it well and we continued being friends. I thought it was just a silly crush that would go away with away with time, but i think he still fancies me. After his girlfriend broke up with him I went over to his house to comfort him and while we were talking he asked me if I wanted him to kiss me and I said no, I thought he just wasn't in the right head space cause his relationship ended the day before ( she broke up with him over text.) And last month on my 21st birthday while we were out with our friend group at a pub he said he had one last surprise for me. I asked him what it was and he said he would give it to me after the party. I had a bad feeling and hoped it wasn't what I thought it was. I was proven right when the party was over he asked me out on a date I told him the same thing I told him. I thought it was the alcohol talking and that in the morning he wouldn't remember. Two days ago a guy he texts on snpachat told me that he's planning on asking me to be his girlfriend om valentines day. I was shocked and scared I didn't know if I should believe him or not cause it was know that he did some sketchy things (nothing too bad ) and thought he was trying to start trouble when I asked him if he had any texts as proof and to see then he said that it was on video call. I feel like I cang be around him rn and I don't want to end our friendship. I talked to my mom about and asked her if I should confront him but she says it proably wouldn't be the best idea and she suggested that I drop hints but it's just eating away at me and I can't wait that long till valentines day. What hints should I drop and what else do you think I should do without ending our friendship. Despite that he's a really nice person he's not had much luck with women cause he told me his last girlfriend was his first and used him for some kind of gain.

Posted Sep 26, 2023, 7:52 PM UTC

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