Did anyone have an N-Parent that would get jealous over how much attention your other parent gave you?

My Father used to get irrationally angry if my Mother was talking to me more than him, if she defended me over him, and if she was spending more time with me than him.

If she was defending me he would go, “you always take her side, you act like her older sister, you don’t parent her, you’re a bad mother for letting her talk to me the way she does.” Which would be followed by a temper tantrum and him saying,

“Okay well if im so horrible then I’ll just leave, all of you can stay and I’ll just go.”

That was his go-to anytime he felt like he was being pushed into a corner. Always. That was also my Mothers go-to. They’re both narcissistic but his was more intense and child-like than hers.

There was also this one time that my Father had the day off from work. He asked my Mother to come upstairs and spend time with him. However, me and my Mother were in the middle of watching a fashion show, we had the volume up because we liked the music. She said that she would after we were done. He was not happy. My dad kept coming downstairs and making rude comments about what we were watching and the music. At one point, he screams at us to turn it down to basically 5 percent volume.

A few minutes later he starts screaming my name from the top of the stairs and starts berating me and questioning me about his missing hoodie. I said to him, “I don’t even know what hoodie you’re talking about, I don’t have it.” He starts yelling more, saying I’m lying, and I steal everything. He demands that I go tear apart my bedroom and find it immediately. I’m sobbing. My mother is confused. He’s going off on her, complaining about me all while standing at my door-way watching me sob and frantically tear apart my bedroom to find this hoodie.

The worst part of it all? I did have the hoodie. It was a hoodie I had at the bottom of my hamper for months. Months. It just so happened to be when I was watching something with my Mom and she’s not spending time with him, he makes a big ordeal out of it.

My favorite had to be when my Father would regularly accuse my Mother of loving me more than him. I have yet to decide if thats disturbing or not.