My New Partner might be lying to me.

Heya folks.

I need to vent a bit. My head keeps spinning sround that topic.

English is not my first language, and I am on mobile.

So, I am in my early 20s, i got autism, depression, cptsd, general anxiety amd agora phobia. I am adamantly childfree since age 12, and recently found a new Partner, also early 20s. He got social anxiety.

The relationship is still very young, only a few days old, but I like to talk about kids very early on. I always state first that I will never ever want kids, not biologically, not fostered, not adopted. None.

He agreed with it. We discussed a bit further and he disclosed that he hates kids, doesnt want any BUT wouldnt say no to one if the partner really convinces him???

He said that as long as he is with me he doesnt want to have any, and would be open to a discussion about a vasectomy in the future. He doesnt want a vasectomy now because he wants to keep that door open if we ever breakup and his future partner convinces him?

I told him he could just date childfree women then, but it looked like he wouldnt go into that topic of dating only childfree women.

I am absolutely confused, that doesnt make any sense to me, and I don't know how to deal with that. This should be a dealbreaker, right?

Originally we wanted to meet friday, but I cancelled stating that I need to think.

My head spins and spins and I can't come to a conclusion. I just don't understand.

And it makes me angry. I strongly dislike people who can't make a decision that impacts the life so greatly like that. Like... Pick a damn side. I am just angry and pissed and confused and feel betrayed.

Vent over. Thank you for coming to my Ted-Talk.