i think im slowly killing my(20F) boyfriends (24M) sex drive

there’s been several times my bf did try to initiate sex and i kinda turned him down and it bothered him to the point where he doesn’t want to initiate anymore. last night we were cuddling and he was touching on me. i gave him the green light to keep going. i just laid there and let him touch me until i came. he was upset because he was still hard and i didn’t give him a hand or touch him once during that moment and now he claims he’s feeling less connected. he left the room and went to watch porn and i killed his mood by being bothered by that.. we went to sleep separately and today he’s not even showing affection or talking to me as much.. he said he doesn’t feel like expressing himself for the 5th time. i guess i don’t really have an excuse as to why i haven’t been giving him any.. its not that i don’t want to it’s just that i don’t think to because i guess my attention goes to other things and i forget he has needs and wants too. he’s very respectful though and understands no means no. he said it just hurts when i reject him or lead him on sexually and nothing happens and hinted that i was more “spicy” in the beginning and feels i’ve gotten comfortable.

so for men i do have questions, is sex important to you? does it bother you if you woman hardly initiates sex? does it matter that sex works on a woman’s terms and not yours? how does sex make you feel emotionally with your woman?