Need help with long distance relationship between me (26F) and my bf (26M)?

I (26F) and my boyfriend (26M) have known each other for 10 years, we've been together on an off since 2021. We knew very well it'll be long distance until we marry. We started dating without putting any labels. Eventually we got serious, though I was more serious about us than him.

Our relationship has been on and off because of communication issues. We love each other but my anger issues and his lack of communication is the perfect combination for fire. I've also had hard time emotionally, and I assume he's having hard time too. (as mentioned before, he doesn't communicate). I've been trying to put efforts to communicate. I'm sure he tries too. But to be it feels insufficient.

Long distance can be hard. I believe you need to put more efforts in long distance. He think otherwise. He thinks relationships are supposed to be effortless. This is making me angry again, and we've finally decided to take some time off. I don't want to lose him. But I can't keep feeling unfulfilled in the relationship.

He isn't much active on social media, and hardly uses it. He gives that as a reason as to why he is very slow and doesn't prefer texting much. We've come at an impasse because I value quality time but because of long distance we can only spend quality time through texting or calls.

Note: he has a hectic and demanding job, which is physically and mentally exhausting. So many a times he goes out with his friends and I feel neglected most days. I don't want to be jealous of his time with his friends.