10 unhealthy types of in laws
- The Bullies Bullying in laws use their power to be a little manipulate criticize intimidate in control others. They must be given clear boundaries, because without boundaries they will inflict major damage to your marriage and family
- The Judges Driven by the need to maintain control, judges, make the rules and set the standards. They will attempt to make you and your spouse play by there, self created rules, occasionally letting you know when you have succeeded, but always informing you where you have failed.
- The Elitists Elitists 10 to look down on others. They might suddenly or obviously let you know you are lucky to be associated with their family. They may even communicate that you will never truly be a part of their family.
- The Takers Takers will always try to take whatever they can get. If you have financial means, they will want your generosity every turn. If you don’t have a lot of money, then I’ll push for other things, like access to your time with your kids.
- The Scorekeepers Goalkeepers will always keep a tally. You’ll always feel as though you are losing on their scorecard even if you don’t know the game that is being played.
- The Gaslighters Gas lighters, constantly, re-white history and redefined reality to give themselves the upper hand in relationships. They try to make anyone who disagrees with them question their own judgment. In the worst cases, gas lighters targets, start to feel as though they are crazy.
- The Separators Separators constantly seem to want to divide you and your spouse. They want to put a wedge between you and your spouse so they can’t control their “child” without your interference.
- The Smothering type This type usually operating out of sweets and selfless motives. But when one or both of your in-laws is a helper by nature, they may go overboard with the desire to help.
- The Chemically Imbalanced The chemically imbalanced me, struggle with chemical addiction to drugs or alcohol, or they may have other physical issues that require medication. Encouraging necessary medication can be a delicate conversation, and also might eventually require some sort of intervention.
- The Ghosts Unintentionally vanish from your life. Contact becomes less and less frequent until you were not a part of each other’s lives at all anymore.
Posted Nov 1, 2023, 4:04 PM UTC
10