Advice

Me and my wife have been in a relationship with another man for awhile now.. we love the bond and what it has done for our marriage (success story) . My problem is we are bother very strong Christians and I struggle with right or wrong in this in God's eyes. It does not feel like conviction more like society says no.. or more like church family says no (which we have not spoken to) I have read forums and the bible to not find a loop hole but rather to find a wrong doing or sin in God's eyes.. and yes ther is some but not really a DO NOT DO THIS answer. I am conflicted because I love to watch her orgasm and the guy involved is nice and we are comfortable with him. And if anything has made our marriage even stronger and open. Please if you have insight I would love to read it. If you going to condem me and her I don't need to hear it I do enough of that on my own. Thank you