transmen/mascs with physical dysphoria, what helps or has helped with dysphoria regarding your genitals?

been struggling with this a lot lately as i'm still waiting to get my letter of support for my top surgery consultation. my (cis male) boyfriend is amazing and sex is great, but because of our preferences i tend to default to bottoming and have begun to feel more and more dysphoric post-sex, and foreplay/sideing has become difficult for us to figure out because my t-dick (6 months on T now) is finnicky and easily overstimulated. i enjoy bottoming and the dynamic that comes with it for us but have a hard time removing the connotation of it being heterosexual because it's PIV. i feel like i'm being constantly reminded i'm not a cis man because of my anatomy and struggle with the idea that i can't actually be a gay man or in a gay relationship because of this.

what helped you overcome/deal with/work around this kind of dysphoria? tips? tricks? practices? anything?