Find it so much effort to date

I feel like woman put so much effort into getting know a guy then there leading it when the guy gives one worded answer this is the reality for me on dating apps I feel like it’s all the same why can’t the guy initiated it or put in as much effort as we do it got to the point where I didn’t even see the point of using them like I’m not going to plan out what to write to make it perfect for you to give me one worded reply’s and I get it I’m not the best at texting either and forget to text back but you could at lest try I just feel like people want to hook up and I’m not about that or that they want to play you or ghost you IDK to do anymore it’s frustrating