My (26F) partner (35M) won't stop wearing colognes that give me migraines and it's the final straw for me

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Tldr: bf wears old man colognes that give me migraines and even though I've asked him not to multiple times and I'm literally going to end our relationship over it

This is not the first issue we've had, nor will it be the last I'm sure. I'm already one foot out the door, planning my exit.

We don't sleep in the same room anymore because his snoring keeps me up. We don't have sex because his body and breath stinks. I'm not attracted to him because his hair is long and greasy and he let his gums get so bad that a tooth fell out. Found out that he lied to me about something from day one. Something I didn't have a right to ask about and don't have a right to be mad about (his words not mine). But I still don't trust him.

But the final fucking straw.... is the fucking colognes. They're one of his "hobbies". I like alot of them but a few of them - about 5 or 6- smell awful and give me migraines. Like I have to leave the house or air it out, with all the windows open and fans on. He can't come near me or touch me or I have to change my clothes. He acts offended and upset when I act like this even if I've told him previously the one he has on will make me sick. Like I'm being impossible. Like I should still suffer through it to protect his feelings.

Most of them smell like Old Fucking Man. One of them smells like an old rubber tire covered in dirty car oil.

I've told him countless times that they give me migraines. That I can't breathe. That it feels like inhaling smoke, like I literally can't get fresh air. That he can wear any other colognes, literally any other ones.

"But the other ones aren't 'in season'!"

Posted Nov 2, 2023, 1:32 AM UTC

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