To all the guys out there working on themselves really hard to impress a girl or find a girl.

This post might seem too "lets comment something funny" kinda to many people but its not for everyone, if you don't connect with the post then you're doing good and I wish u good luck.

I have lost touch with many people in past few years or deliberately gave up talking with them, some even left coz I tested how deep the friendships are by pushing them aside and turns out it barely took one push and they left and never came back. What am trying to say is I have a very small circle of friends - Only one or two people are there coz they like me as much as I like them and rest are there for reasons unknown , apart from the formalities of calling and smiling back and meeting for few minutes ,or staying together there's nothing worthwhile to acknowledge them as FRIENDS. There might be a few of you like me who really want to get in to dating and finding girls but you fail to find one, then that might be because of the small circle, so don't beat up yourself too hard if you haven't had any meaningful time or conversation with anyone in recent times , its just that the person you are looking for haven't met you yet. Expanding this circle is really hard for many and some even go to the extents of exhausting themselves so much so that in the end they barely have anything left with them, People are like that - we cannot force 'em to stay or even like ourselves , they come ,they go and One thing that I have learnt by interacting with people with awesome and big friends circle is that they barely give shit about anyone on a personal level. Yes they meet on parties, they watch movies together, they go for trips but they barely know each other and this kind of connection is not what everyone can handle. So wait till you meet more people and don't get anxious.

Girls have a very small attention span because they try focusing on so many guys at a time that what you get from them is very very small attention. You know how almost every conversation that we guys have about a girl has that one line that goes like "You know how many guys are behind her? " its just that and its pretty natural for girls I guess to act like that when you have attention and options , well I don't know that and most of the guys might not know that coz unless you have above average height and nice hair and straight nose and good jaw line you might barely know how it feels to have so many options. And I have accepted the fact that some people barely need to take efforts and when they do take those efforts their efforts get instantly multiplied many times because of the way they look and its a very common thing, so if you are having hard time impressing girl I'd suggest you to go for more at a time. This might sound so wrong but its because of the behavior that girls have, one has to do this and I am not saying to be in relation with more than one girl, instead try your luck with more than one girl , so that next time you won't get hurt so much when she turns you down just because you glorified her interactions with you as solely meant for you and don't feel bad for girls whom you flirted with either coz unlike guys they have options.

I want you guys to know that having a receding hairline is human thing, having your hair graying before you reach graying age is also human thing, having pimples, breakouts, wrinkles, Tans ,unibrows , patchy beard , having a little extra fat ..its all humane you don't have to put all of your soul into tackling them as if its some kind of an issue on which your life depends on. Take care , but don't take care as if you're suffering from something. Accepting yourself is also a very big feat and you cant listen to the quotes given by people who changed the way they look and go on to say "build confidence, be confident " etc. I'd have a shit tons of confidence if I knew I look like the way that matches society acceptance standards, what takes efforts is when you know you have a certain feature that others don't find good and yet you accept it as a part of you - that's the real confidence.

Dating apps are a lie, if you really want to find someone who'd put some efforts to read your bio you better pay for premium and try some outside country swipes, coz here every girl no matter under which category she falls, they all are swiping right the same guy.

One movie which really helped me learn the average collective behavior of girls towards certain personality was - "Kabir Singh" also there wasn't anything worthwhile to learn from movie itself but the whole theater experience was eye opening. In entire theater for the whole movie there were girls shouting more than the guys and usually it was opposite in every other movie I went but in this one I closely payed attention to each group that came. Every guy in the group for some reason was hesitant to react whenever some scene came up that seemed misogynistic and at the same time girls were cheering and shouting and that was very puzzling to me . So the point being the lesser you give attention the more the relation will survive, thats why you might constantly come across people who ended relations as long as 5yrs old or 7yr old and this is the common factor in all of 'em, the urge to balance the imbalance drags the relationships more. Also why drag a relationship? how many have you seen survive with genuine love and caring?

Also that very old trick where you go for the girl who is friends with your crush, it works but you don't literally have to go for her, you can just flirt around the girls friend circle a lil bit and she will definitely have some level of feeling as if she might loose something important .

I know I talked a lot about looks and all and the reason for that is that's what the reality is , I cant ignore it and act oblivious to it. Also if I sounded like a misogynist ,am not! . I wasn't talking about that small percentage of girls who are really different but yes I was talking about the other majority of 'em.