When is it appropriate to stop treating someone who needs to get their shit together with “kindness and understanding?”
Posted Nov 25, 2023, 3:40 PM UTC
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I’ve learned that it is best to say your peace and let those people live in lala land till it all goes crumbling down on them. Life will you teach you a lesson one way or the other, stubborn/hard headed people need to lean the hard way, also prefer it tbh.
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In my opinion, never. You can tell them theyre a bad person or very much in the wrong or whatever but you can still say what you need to say with kindness and understanding
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What happens when their actions negatively impact others?
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Still applies. Why what would you do or say?
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Honestly, as much as I try to be kind, there are some times when someone really needs a wake up call. Some people view kindness as meaning their actions are without consequence.
How do you think someone can ever learn if they do not understand the consequences of their actions?
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Whats an example? You can be blunt about how horrible they are being while still being kind.
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Not if they are hurting really bad people
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Around 28 years old, unless they are hurting others.
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I mean kindness and understanding doesn't mean you don't have boundaries and aren't honest in your dealings with said someone...
For example:
"Sorry, I can't keep paying for you as it's not in my spending capabilities."
It's not rude to not pay for someone else, even if you can technically pay for them, unless you agreed to ahead of time. It's not speaking unkindly, even to say... "I feel like you forget your wallet a lot, and I think we need to pick a different way to hangout so it doesn't matter if your wallet is forgotten. I can't afford to pay for two meals for us to hangout." You can understand that someone is going through a rough patch and be there for them, without spending money on them, and do things that don't require money to spend time with them. Etc
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When their actions start to negatively affect others, severely.
Hurting bad people that's ok.