Psychologist or Psychiatrist? Male or Female?

20M

Hey everyone,

After years of trying to find what is wrong with me, I have come to conclusion that it is all because of my narcissistic parents. I have moved to another country, yet emotional trauma doesn't leave me alone. Therefore, I am very prone to addictions, and can't function in my daily life.

I am thinking about therapy, therefore I need advice. My father is the biggest narcissist, but I think my mother also is. I feel like most of my problems (anxiety, low self-esteem, being afraid of authority figures, depression) rise from emotional neglect from my father.

So, would you advise me to have Male, or Female therapist? I feel like talking my problems to male therapist would make me less manly because of my low self-esteem issues, therefore I really don't prefer this (thanks, Father). But I also believe female therapist can't understand me as male therapist, so I am confused.

And should I go for psychologist or psychiatrist?

Thanks everyone🙏.