I don't really need someone else in my life. This dating thing feels like a job interview and not like two people meeting eachother in good faith and mutual respect. I highly doubt anyone's going to look at someone like me in my life's path and have any such kind of ambition, but it also looks like searching is a futile effort. Good luck and bless you all.
Posted Dec 26, 2023, 6:41 PM UTC
I tried the same, but found that you never truly embrace it. The loneliness stays and bitterness grows. Especially living in a society where intimate social relationships are a norm. You can’t escape being confronted by basic human needs.
Imho, anyway.
This dating thing feels like a job interview and not like two people meeting eachother in good faith and mutual respect
Wonder when it changed or has it always been this way? I want to meet someone fun who I can get along with and be myself, rather than pretending like it's a job interview and having to tick all the boxes
How do you feel about sex? Do you have a libido and is it sated through masturbation? Do you have friends? Very few people can live as a hermit.
I don't have strong feelings about the actual sex act one way or the other. Libido doesn't play a big role in my life. I have low contact friendships. People have been slowly drifting away. That's the biggest factor that undermines my mood. It appears to me that I do not have the qualities that get others to want me in their life.
I cannot embrace it as it was FORCED on me via heightism 😒
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Wishing you luck.
In my experience even after you "accept it" the yearning for companionship still comes and goes.
Deep feelings of sorrow are not uncharted waters to this vessel. Easy come, easy go, little high, little low. Any way the wind blows doesn't really matter to me...
It does, but when it’s absent you are so much more free to live your life, and you have more energy to do so. Even when it’s there, it doesn’t last as long since I don’t dwell on it incessantly, dragging out how long it stays.