When they tell you they're not safe around you

Anybody else's partners put this on them? It's a big one for me. Getting told I'm not safe to be around, that I cannot protect her and that I cannot provide for her and that i do not car for her. I actually used to believe it! I don't believe it anymore. Sometimes it feels like she's picking out the things that a man is supposed to provide to her and telling me I'm not enough. The safety one is her main go to. Followed by the rest