Detachment

Detachment really is key and essentially the only answer to long term healing.

I’m a year out from the discard after a 3 yr long very….turbulent relationship and I’m still trying to make sense of everything.

But I still find myself mentally “in it” when I’m doing this rumination. I have to stop myself and say “it’s not time to analyze this” when that happens and focus on just getting present and detaching from it.

Healing isn’t linear. I was actually doing pretty well and thought I was out of the woods, but a Hoover and discard cycle last month set me back considerably.

So for now, I’m working on just mentally being “okay” before deep diving into any “why” questions.