People are often surprised when an INFJ ghosts them or snaps

Something I noticed, as an INFJ myself and speaking with other INFJs, is that they are very patient people. They give others many chances, (probably too many) , and even when they give some hints that a behaviour is hurting them , the other person tends to continue .

Eventually the infj snaps or “door slams” that person out of their life, but they’re always surprised when it happens. I struggle to see where the confusion comes from, because often times if it were the reverse scenario they’d get angry much earlier in the relationship.

So, have you experienced this? What do you think about this ?