We have no routine & I am a human pacifier.

Is this bad? We contact nap for every nap & we cosleep at night. I feed him and let him sleep on demand. He kind of created his own routine - wakes up around 7:30-8, goes to bed around 9. It doesn’t leave me much time to breathe as he won’t nap or sleep with dad. My husband works from home at his leisure (for the most part) so he’s willing and able. Any tips on how I can get that to happen more? My babe won’t take a binky and I’ve sort of become his pacifier. I know it’s normal when going about things this way but I think I might want to end it OR at least have him be able to sleep without it when he has to.