[Rant] Questions about motivating spouse to join me on keto.

Why does he have to do keto? If he eats low carb with you but drinks more carby beers than keto will allow, he's still probably going to lose weight, albeit more slowly. It sounds like he eats what you make anyway so this isn't a case of you having to accommodate him for meals, you can still make keto main dishes. Perhaps down the line once you've outpaced him in weight loss he might come around and forego his usual beers for the low-carb alternative but until then it seems like bugging him about dieting the exact way you are is wasting your energy.

I swear you sound like my sister in law, I just had this conversation with her.

you make the meals right? Make your meals, he can either go along or not. It's his choice. If he wants to make something different, he's got hands, it's not your job to make all his food.

also, once you get skinny, your relative sex level will go up in relation to his (since he'll still be fat if he doesn't do something), he'll soon realize that he needs to do something or he'll lose you. There's an entire website devoted to discussing this phenomenon.

just cook your keto meals and make his version low fat. you eat a steak with bacon, he gets a boiled chicken breast :D

What if he took up table tennis and you absolutely hated it. He told you all about the benefits--hand-eye coordination, a bit of cardio, etc. He told you there were special paddles that could make it more enjoyable and less of a pain in the ass, etc. You simply didn't want to play table tennis, but he kept asking you to, How would you feel?

I understand the analogy is imperfect (all analogies are), but really, stop bugging him about it. Make your food, make him food, and let him make his own choices.

This is a hard one. Usually I will just say that you being the example will possibly help turn them towards the lifestyle, but I dont think that will work for your hubby. Keto is the only diet/lifestyle change my hubby hasn't fought be on, but then again we dont drink. If you are fixing his food and keep in low carb in in general, even with the beer he will hopefully maintain a lower-carb daily intake and lose some weight from that.

I feel your pain. My husband won't go on the diet, not cause of beer, but because he won't give up popcorn. (LoL -- seriously) . But he, like your spouse, is totally fine with whatever I cook. He's just happy I'm cooking at all. So don't sweat it! Do what's right for you, and if he wants to snack or have a beer, it shouldn't effect what you are trying to do yourself.

He can drink some beer, especially if it's miller light or michelob ultra. However, he'll probably never stay under the 20g mark. Could stay under the 50 or 100 mark though, and he'd still probably lose some weight. Why don't you just put your damn foot down and tell him he needs to get healthy. I have guinness on tap in my garage, and I manage to do keto so anyone can do it. He sounds like he's just using beer as an excuse.

Otherwise get skinny, get hot, and tell him you aren't attracted to him anymore. He'll either shape up, or someone else will come along.

What I would suggest is to take a comprehensive blood work which would provide a baseline for your health and this could make it necessary to follow a ketogenic diet. Parents always do anything for their kids, so ask him to do it for his son and a better quality of life.

My fiance was against it in the beginning but since I do most of the cooking, he was eating keto or not eating. I never pushed it on him but now he's more strict with keto than I am! He basically has not cheated at all since January and I've had a bit of ebb and flow over the weeks with carbs (although firmly back on the horse now).

Basically, just cook keto food and he may come around to it. Don't do special meals for him. My fiance feels better, loves not being gassy anymore and he's lost over 15lbs (and he wasn't that heavy to begin with).

Make him think it's his idea.

And get him to start drinking whiskey.