I feel like I'm getting ousted from my group of friends.
I'm going to say group and member a lot, which I know sounds quite ridiculous but I don't know any other way to phrase it.
I'm in Grade 10. Last year, in Grade nine, my group of 12-13 closest friends would hang out every single weekend. We'd go to parties, to girls houses, etc. We were really close, but all didn't go to the same high school. So, I decided I would move to a school where 4 of my friends go. So Summer 2012, we're all still really close, going to all the same stuff. August comes, some of the best times of my life. Then, September (when we start school) comes around. I've now moved to my a few of that group's school. It was amazing. The start of the year was like the previous years of my life. Hanging out with them. One night, we're at a party and one of the kids in my group (let's call him Bob) starts chirping me. He just went on and on and I didn't want to be there so I just left, cabbed home. The thing that made me annoyed was that my other group of friends just watched. Not doing anything, not sticking up for me. I really thought hard about that. I didn't go out the next weekend, which was odd because I usually would go out Friday night, sleep at someone's, come home Saturday morning, sleep and go out Saturday night. But I thought, I should just take a break.
I miss that weekend out. I see pictures of that "great time" everywhere. Just a note, coincidentally this is when I discovered Reddit So I that Monday, I get back to school. None of my friends say,"Why didn't you go out?" or "We missed you" or even "Bob was such an asshole". Nothing. I was really surprised, thinking that I would always have their back and I was always so nice to them. That weekend, I do nothing. Come to school Monday and it's small talk. The next weekend I do nothing again, and you can guess what happens on Monday. This goes on for about 4 weeks. Another note, I love film so writing and watching movies kept me busy I finally decide to go out again, and have fun, but something just feels off. I ask one of my friends if I can sleep at his, because everyone else was. And he usually would always say yes, but he says,"My mom said no more people".
This was a blatant lie and I knew it, he told me how he'd use the excuse on other people. I was just in awe. So, I ask my Dad to pick me up. He does and I go back home. That was a Friday night. On Saturday at about 6:30 I asked one of my other friends in the "group" if they wanted to hang out, go to a girl's house. He replies,"Fag, no, nobody likes you. Go fuck yourself" That made me angry and sad, more angry, though. I shut my computer and went to bed. I woke up at about one, I got a text message from the kid who messaged me the hate. It said,"I'm so sorry that was Bob". I just ignored it. I don't go out the following three months, and now it's December 31st we travelled to Turks and Caicos for the break. I was there on my computer when Bob suddenly Facebook messaged me. My heart started pumping because I just didn't want to deal with that shit, but the message was,"Wanna hang out on New Years?" I was surprised. I thought that OK, I have nothing to worry about when I go out, they like me again, but one problem. I was on a vacation. So in the nicest words possible I said,"I'm so sorry I'm away I can't". He doesn't respond just reads it. When I get back to school there's no mention about it, I knew they knew. They were kissing Bob's ass. They all were.
January, February and March pass. In late March I finally saw Bob in person at a party. I got really nervous, but he came up to me and joked around. He made it like we were best friends again. So I thought, who's punking me? No one was he was being genuinely nice. We hung out for a bit and at the end of the night I asked another friend if I could sleep over (since, 8 other people were). He told me yes, I just need to find a ride there. He told me that one of the other guys, let's call him Jules was taking a bunch of people there. I go up to Jules and ask him if he could give me a ride there. He says no room. I left about the same time they all left and I saw there was plenty of room. I got so angry at my "friends". I felt like I have nobody to count on. Which brings me to tonight. There's a huge party going on. I'm going with one of my other friends there tonight. I don't have any plans to sleep somewhere but I know that this guy, call him Vito (member) is having everyone over. I ask him if I can come and he just replies,"No". This made me so pissed off. And if it comes to a point I'm going to kick his fucking ass. I'm taller and stronger than him. I ended up making plans with another kid who's not a "member".
Anyway, any advice? I just feel abandoned and shafted. I'm annoyed.
Tl;dr I got shafted from my group of friends, and there being astronomical dicks.
Posted Apr 13, 2013, 10:00 PM UTC