Me [23M] trying to support gf in her career difficulties

Hi reddit,

Having in been on reddit for a while, I really appreciate the care and wisdom that the community possesses. With great trust and gratitude, I hope to hear your advice on the issue above.

My gf and I have been in a relationship for more than a year. I assure you that the length is not indicative of how much I care about this person. At this point she is looking for internships and jobs, the success of which will determine whether we can be together. (EDIT: otherwise she would have to move)

I really want to be a supportive partner, and I'm quite proud that I've been doing a good job. Yet a recurring issue is that sometimes I suffer from a bag of negative emotions as well--feeling tired, helpless, as she keeps trying without any success in sight.

Even though I have been able to contain these emotions quite well, I really do want to deal with them early. For I really fear that one day I may snap and hurt both our relationship and her career. More insidiously, I fear that my respect for her may wither little by little and disappears one day.

On the one hand, there are things that I objectively think she's been doing wrong in her career search (strategies, priorities, etc.). On the other hand, I do realize some of the frustration is due to my warped thinking. Thus, it's hard to know whether I'm providing constructive criticism.

I have talked to her about my feelings and worries, and that certainly is a good move. Yet the issue has been recurring, and I suspect that I may need a change of perspective on what is my appropriate role in her career problems.

I really care because I want her to be successful and us to be together. And yet the more I care, the more frustrated and potentially hurtful I get. This irony is what haunts me the most.

Thank you for listening, and I really look forwards to hearing your opinion. I'm surprised by how little shows up on google search on this topic, and the majority of the discussion has been (Christian) housewives supporting her laid off husbands. We are both young students so I'm hoping to hear from more perspectives.

Thank you!

TL;DR: I'm trying to be supportive while gf looking for jobs, yet I often feel tired and helpless myself. I have talked to her about my feelings, and it's a great idea, yet these feelings still don't go completely away. I do not want to keep talking about my feelings either, since that will distract her more. We are both young college graduates [22] in a 1+ year relationship.