Boyfriend isn't very fond of or good with replay.

I ask him for massages but its always a no. He doesn't like the idea of oral but still does it occasionally. Anytime we have sex its pretty much just kissing for a bit, we get naked and I lube him up then we go at it. How do I get him to get me going? What do I say to him? *sorry about typo in title. Meant to say foreplay.