I [20f] need some general life/relationship advice

Not sure if this is the right subreddit, but here we go.

I [20f] am trying to figure out my summer plans. I am a sophomore at a college on the east coast, but I am originally from the midwest. I am currently involved in a relationship with a guy [21m] that I have been dating for about seven months - he will be graduating in May, but he plans on staying in our college town for the summer and possibly into the following year.

I would love to stay in my college town for the summer, but my parents have told me they want me to come home. I feel extremely conflicted and guilty about making this decision.

My gut absolutely tells me that I do not want to return home. Getting a job for my school's short summer break (June 3 - August 13) is incredibly hard. Last summer I began my job hunt online in April - no one wants to hire someone they can't meet face to face, so I was unable to secure a job before returning home. Once at home, I spent two weeks (precious time when a break is so short) looking for a job. I eventually found part-time work, but that was it. I was making half the money I had hoped to be because I couldn't find anyone who wanted to take someone on full time for two months. On the flip side, if I were to stay here this summer I could easily find a job on my school's campus or in town. Businesses in town know about our weird, short summer break and are willing to hire students.

Obviously, the employment situation isn't the only factor at play. I feel that I am, in a way, also choosing between my parents and my boyfriend. My parents and I have a GREAT relationship - they are my best friends. That being said, because my school is so far away they definitely feel they have an empty nest. They are always so excited and happy when I am at home, and I am too. So I guess I feel guilty about denying that, turning my back on home (not to be dramatic).

But it would be so lovely to stay here, in my college town, with my boyfriend. We haven't been dating long, but we have serious feelings for each other. As I mentioned, he is graduating in May and is fairly uncertain of his future plans. The future status of our relationship is also unclear: we are wary of long-distance relationships. That being said, I want to spend as much time with him as possible as long as we have the possibility of being in the same place at the same time.

Reddit, what do I do? Am I being selfish in not wanting to return home? Or would staying in my college town only be prolonging the inevitable?

tl;dr: Do I go home (parents) or stay here (boyfriend)?

Posted Apr 13, 2013, 11:39 PM UTC · edited

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