People who learnt late that your parents are narcissists, how did you deal with the realisation that your heart qualities are the ones you taught yourself?

My life was going decently but COVID really affected nearly all spheres of my life. The pandemic brought out the worst qualities in my father and I realised that the only reason I was able to bring myself out of the struggles of the pandemic was what I taught myself.

If I'd stuck to what I thought he taught me, I'd have not recovered and been able to rebuild my life.