Looking for articles

Hi I’m trying to find an article about how to deal with a loved one with bpd, all the ones I’ve found keep talking about abuse inflicted on the partner and how to stand up for yourself if it gets abusive. I am not abusive in any sense and I love my partner very dearly, they have been kinda clueless about bpd and I said I’ll help them research the illness and how to deal with it, I just don’t want them to get the idea that I could be capable of ever hurting them. Thank you