I feel alone here. This is going to offend some of you.

As an "asexual asexual" (not a straight "asexual" or gay "asexual", etc.), I have nothing in common with people pursuing romantic/sexual relationships in terms of sexuality. Someone who identifies as asexual but is still pursuing romantic/sexual relationships has more in common with straight/lesbian/gay/bi people than they do me.

And by the way, the fact that asexuality communities are centering people who, from my point of view, are SLGB is disheartening too. Legit. How come someone who is "heterosexual heteroromantic" is just labelled as straight? Ditto for "homosexual homoromantics" with lesbian/gay and "bisexual biromantics" with bi. Yet for someone like me, I can't just be asexual. Oh no, we gotta further qualify it as "aromantic asexual" as if romantic/sexual asexuals are the norm whereas asexual asexuals are some specific subtype.

So yeah. I dislike the term asexual for this reason and I'm wondering if anyone knows of a term that actually centres asexuals. lol

Cheers!