How do I shift ?? Please help

I've been trying to shift for over 3 years. I've read from experienced shifters that shifting shouldn't be taking this long. And im inclined to agree with them because I don't believe in the "you have to wait your time"/ "you're still here for some greater purpose" shit. My life here is ass but I'm aware that there are people suffering much worst than me so I'm not even here to pity plea. I just want to know how to shift. I have tried LOA, the void method, etc and I'm still here never having even MINISHIFTED. I'm more than tired of being here, I just need to shift the one time to my main dr and I'm good. I'm not coming back. And before someone comments "thats the problem, you're too focused on the first shift you're putting too much pressure on it and it's stopping you from--" many people have put their drs on a pedestal and shifted. I'm no different. I'm sorry this post is all over the place. I'm just fed up and looking for real advice instead of the same regurgitated "oh it's so easy just intend and you're in your dr" like i haven't just intended for the past 3 years straight. I know I can shift. I know it's easy. I just need help with the getting there.