How do I (29NB/F) tell my partner (34M) that I don't want constant comments every time I simply change in front of him?

I'm gender queer, AFAB (assigned female at birth, pronouns are she/they) my partner is male. We've been together for 8 years, married for 3.

Let me just say... I have a big butt. It's something everyone knows about me. I recognize it's sort of a defining feature of mine, and it's not something I've created nor can change. It's quite literally a blessing and a curse.

Okay, now that that's out of the way.... I'm honestly just so tired of the constant comments every single time I change clothes in front of him. If I change shirts, pants, whatever... The moment I show any skin I get "GODDAMN" (or "GYAT DAMN") or "look at that booty!" Or some kind of comment on my boobs or stomach or butt. Every. Single. Time. I change.

I was trying on new clothes (to which I was doing quickly just for efficient sake because I had to get to work) and he literally STOPPED what he was doing to make a comment and stare. And I understand he's trying to be supportive and "build me up" but I'm tired of it. Sometimes I don't want to be "ogled". Like... I just wanna change my freakin' clothes in front of my spouse without him literally stopping anything he's doing and making some kinda boisterous comment about my body

I understand that some people would find this awesome and sweet and would love the attention but I don't. And I've tried to gently tell him this but he just immediately gets mad and says "geez sorry for being supportive. I just will look away from now on" like, that's not what I'm saying. We've been together for so long, like... I just want to change in front of my partner without it being this whole big attention thing. I should be able to walk around with just shorts and a bra without constant comments. Hell, I should be able to walk around naked if I wanted without being seen like a piece of meat.

I can change in front of my friends without comments. Why can't I do that with my SPOUSE.

And again, I UNDERSTAND that this kind of thing is something most "women" would not have a problem with. Quite the opposite. I feel like most women would love this attention and this feels like a "first world problem" kinda thing (I know that's not the right term but I can't think of it right now). But I don't. It's nice sometimes... Sometimes but not literally ALLLLLLL the time. Even on the days when I'm very confident about my body, that doesn't mean I want to be ogled. And I especially don't want to be ogled when I'm not as confident.

I've triiiieddd to tell him this and I end up turning into the "ungrateful bad guy"

What should I do? Please help