Husband forgot to bake my birthday cake

TLDR: Husband forgot to bake me a birthday cake like he does every year

Every year, my husband (29) bakes me (27) a birthday cake since he’s vegan and can’t eat regular cake. But this year, he really dropped the ball.

Usually, he bakes the cake the night before or the morning of my birthday. This year, he was too distracted with buying and unboxing Amazon Prime Day junk instead of baking my cake. This morning, I woke up to him testing out the new Instant Pot and other Prime Day stuff he ordered. And he was baking sourdough bread in the oven.

He was baking BREAD on my birthday! With our only stand mixer bowl!

Then when he finally got around to baking my birthday cake (2 hours before dinner), he forgot an ingredient! 😡 And then he said that we can just stop by Target after dinner.

When we got to Target after dinner, he went straight to the beauty aisle to look at shampoo. Then he walked to the self-checkout and completely forgot what we were there for. We were there to buy a missing ingredient for MY birthday cake. Not shampoo! I was completely shocked that he walked to the checkout. I sarcastically told him, “Aren’t you forgetting something?” And then he finally realized his mistake. We quickly got the ingredients and checked out.

Once we made it into the car. I had a complete breakdown. He forgot that we were at the store to get stuff for me. Not him! He was trying to apologize, but I just couldn’t stop crying. I couldn’t believe he forgot. After a couple minutes, I was able to calm myself down so we could go home. And then we drove home in silence.

Once we got home, I went to the bedroom to continue crying, and all of the selfish stuff he did all came flooding back in my mind. He came to comfort me and apologize for procrastinating. And he baked my cake.

Finally, at almost midnight, we got to eat cake together.

He apologized for being selfish, putting off baking my cake, and taking me for granted lately. But I still feel like my birthday was ruined.

He has been doing this selfish stuff all week. All week, everything feels like it was all about him.

1: He forgot to add the cake ingredients to the shopping list last week, and he said that he would get the ingredients later. He waited until the day before my birthday to buy them.

3: I wanted to go to a nice Michelin restaurant for my birthday dinner, because I’ve never been to a fine dining place. But they didn’t have vegan options for him and they don’t allow substitutions. We had to compromise on a cheaper restaurant that had vegan options.

3: He was looking at Amazon Prime Day deals instead of looking over what ingredients he needed for the cake

4: I asked him a couple days ago that I can just order dessert at the restaurant if he didn’t feel like baking this year. He said no, and that he wanted to make the cake again this year.

5: Stayed up late the night before my birthday adding Prime Day stuff to our wish list instead of going to bed early so he could bake in the morning

6: He baked bread for himself before baking my cake

6: He was looking at shampoo at Target instead of going straight to the baking aisle to get ingredients

This year has been super difficult for me. I haven’t been able to find work since we moved last year, I came out to my family as non-binary, and I was hospitalized for mental health issues. My birthday is the only thing in my life right now that I was looking forward to.

And it just felt more like a day for my husband. We went to a restaurant that he could eat at, we ate a cake that he could eat, he unboxed Amazon orders that he bought for himself, he baked bread for himself, and he looked at shampoo at Target for himself and forgot about my cake.

I know that he didn’t mean to make the day about himself. But my birthday still felt like more of an after thought. 😭

At least I finally got my cake