[M4A] Boyfriends vs FWBs

This post is intentionally written in an exaggerated way. It does not accurately reflect my views; its purpose is merely to encourage discussion on this topic.

It seems that women and men generally have different perspectives on relationships and sex. Perhaps this is what creates misunderstandings when it comes to cuckolding.

First, I want to explain something before I face criticism. Sex is absolutely not the only thing that interests me in a relationship. But it is undoubtedly an important part of it. It is the culmination of intimacy and trust between partners. It's also hard to ignore that there is a certain asymmetry between the sexes when it comes to approaches to sex. It is usually the man who proposes it first. The man has to make an effort to gain the girl's trust. In this context, sex can be seen as a kind of reward for the effort put in. Ultimately, it is up to the woman to decide whether to grant this reward to the man or not.

However, the effort a man has to put in to go to bed with a particular woman is not the same for all men. There are men who invite a girl on dates, get to know her, build a relationship, and then spend intimate moments with their beloved. But there are also men who, after proposing an FWB relationship on the first date, cum on the face of the same girl (both examples are deliberately exaggerated).

Now I'll move on to the topic of my post. Women often seem to see the first man as the one who “won.” He is the one who will build a relationship with her, while the other guy only got sex. This is exactly the kind of compliment I received from my partner. After all, I am wealthier, more handsome, etc. Do I agree with her? To some extent, yes. I am very happy with our relationship; I wouldn't trade it for anything else. However, at the same time, it is somewhat humiliating. The woman I love, whom I care for and tried to win over, was treated like a sex object by another man. What's more, she also wanted it. Fortunately, I have a fetish for being humiliated; otherwise, it would be hard to accept.