Is my 34M bf choosing his family over me 30F?

My bf and I have been together for 8 years and we have one child (7F). I became pregnant 6 mos into our relationship and he berated me and told me to get an abortion. I did not, and I blocked him until I was 4 months pregnant where he was only present via text until the baby was born. He wasn’t really there during my pregnancy which was full of complications as I had pre-eclampsia and gave birth via emergency c section. He showed up to the hospital after the baby was born and since the day we left the hospital we have been living together. As a 23 year old woman with a newborn I don’t think I knew how to handle the situation, he didn’t tell his family about the baby until the day she was born. The first year we fought and argued a lot and he maintained that he was giving it until the baby was 6months old for him to be living together. Either way we continued to be together and his family has always been an issue. His mother is very controlling and energetic and she planned a baptism for the baby without telling me. After me and the baby not showing up she played the guilt card and my bf was always taking his mothers side and not sticking up for me and his family. My family is very dysfunctional and distant and I don’t have a good relationship with my mom. She is very selfish and self - centered and not a part of my life at all. Therefore we always spend holidays and every major event with his family. It’s hard for me, but I’ve been doing it for the last 7 years for him and my daughter. But I don’t feel like part of the family and it’s not my favorite thing to do since his family has made judge mental and critical comments to me in the past. Last year his sister 31F got married and I never received an invitation or information about the wedding. Everything I knew about the wedding was through his mom since I am closest to her because she picks up my kid from school and watches her M-F. My bf is very avoidant, anxious and secretive. He claims I was invited but he never talked to me about it since it was at an adults only resort in Mexico and someone had to wat h the kid and it was too much money for us to go. I felt left out, unimportant and rejected which is feelings that get triggered from my emotionally abusive childhood. His mother threw a bridal shower for her daughter which myself, my sister and my daughter were invited to. His mother likes to drink and at this event she was acting very overbearing and continuously asking me to take my kid to her house so she could watch her daughter 31F open her bridal shower gifts. Seeing as she was plastered I said absolutely not and took my kid home. After the event I talked to my bfs mother about her behavior and how I did not appreciate it and it was a complete deflection onto me and my bf. This whole situation and wedding caused a big riff between me and his family due to how left out I felt. Come Christmas 2023 we are at my bf moms house like we do every year and it was a mess. I got his siblings gifts that I thought they would like based off of their personality and interests and his sister gave me a candle and gummy bears. His brother got me nothing. And his mom got me Tupperware. I was overstimulated and felt left out and slighted so I left in a fit of rage which did cause a scene. Afterwards I called his mother to apologize and explain why I left suddenly. Ofcourse his mother took it the wrong way and over generalized me feeling not thought of by them so for Valentine’s Day she made sure to write in a card how much she “thought” about me. After all of that I decided to let it go and work through things with his family. I get along with his mom and dad but his siblings are cold and standoffish and since they don’t live in the state I don’t see them often. They’re in town for a few weeks and my bf has Ben going over to their h family home every day after work for 2-3hours without communicating it to me. I know because I see his location. I brought up to him how it hurts my feelings and makes me feel bad and left out that he doesn’t share he is spending time at his family’s house. He got mad and said he doesn’t have to tell me that he’s spending time with his family and that he hates that I make him feel guilty for doing so. He thinks I hate his family. Which I truly don’t they have just said things to me that make me not want to be around them. They’re just not my kind of people. He doesn’t like my family either so I don’t get it. Either way I’m not sure what to do anymore since I feel like it’s his family vs me for our whole relationship and I’m exhausted. I feel like it’s Tim to just end things between us but it’s very hard since we have a child and live in a city I can’t afford to live as a single mom. I feel very sad and defeated and don’t know what to do. He doesn’t want to break up he says he loves me but I don’t feeel it I feel like he will always put his family of origin first.