I (20M) went through a breakup of a 3 year relationship about a month ago, and I already find a girl attractive. What should I do?

So for context, I was in a relationship with a girl (19F) and we both loved each other strongly. It was around 6 or 7 months before the relationship ended when I started thinking that I wanted to break up with her. This time where I had thought about it eventually just ended up with me just coming to terms that the relationship would end. I did a lot of coping, and had lots of conversations with her about it. Eventually I ended up deciding that it would be better if we ended things there. Ever since then I have been trying to have more of a social life because honestly I hadn't had much of one while I was in the relationship.

Last night (last night as in the night before me writing this), I went to one of my friends going away parties, and there was this girl (21F) that I had met and we had started talking. I asked her a few just small talk questions, she asked me a few things too. I found out she was a bio major and is going to go to the military after she finishes her bachelors. It was interesting too because I found out she had some similar interests to me as well like video games, anime, and some other stuff too. After just some small talk conversations like that, I asked her if an alien species had landed on earth and asked who the leader of the planet was who she would take them to, and her response was honestly quite thoughtful and was one that I found myself really relating to. It was really interesting too because we had maybe an hour long conversation about places we would like to travel to as well. It was also really interesting because she seemed really interested in what video games I had played and which ones were my favorites as well. At the end of the night, I ended up finding myself kind of attracted to her, and though I never asked her for any of her socials or her number, it just so happens we're gonna end up meeting again at another gathering as well later this week.

With all of this said, I'm not really sure how to feel about finding her kind of attractive, especially since I broke up with someone only about a month ago. Part of me kind of wants to give it more time because I feel like it would be kind of disrespectful if I started talking to someone so soon. It was also the reason why I never asked for any socials or her number or anything as well. Part of me wants to also just let this feeling fade because of that same reason. With all of that said though I do think that I am over her at this point, and I would like to get to know the other girl more. I'm really contemplating whether I should get to know her more or not. It's also hard to tell if I want to get to know her more as a friend or if I want to pursue a possible attraction to her.

Posted Aug 11, 2024, 6:42 PM UTC

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