Message from a former incel

Hi I assume Reddit is full of these posts but I like you guys so I want to share mine with you.

I am a 24m and am autistic I have never been on an incel forum or “took the black pill” as they say or ever even been completely comfortable with the label incel I am writing this post 3 months into dating my first girlfriend and I feel like I have to disclose we have not had sex yet, part of the point of me writing this post is that I don’t think that being an incel is about how many women you can get to have sex with you it is about feeling unloveable.

The first thing and probably the thing that I most needed to hear and the thing I think you might need to hear is that THERE IS NOTHING FUNDAMENTALLY WRONG WITH YOU. If you don’t have a relationship that works for you, you are just unlucky and while working on yourself will help it is ultimately out of your control. you are not a sex pest, people like you just nobody likes you in that way yet.

The second thing is don’t chase women. Once someone knows what it is like to be around you and knows you are interested in them there is nothing you can do, no doesn’t mean no forever but no should mean stop.

The third and last thing thing I want to say is that your feelings on inadequacy and your resentment of women isn’t going away becomes it’s not a fact or an opinion it’s a feeling and nobody has the power to fix your feelings.