Narc tactics 101

Since I realised my husband was a narcissist, I’ve been seeing through all his tactics clear as day.

Recently, I noticed he puts other women on a pedestal to manipulate me.

I am tender and loving and protective with our daughter which I think subconsciously triggers his attachment wounds. I think he is subconsciously jealous and triggered I don’t listen to him when he wants me to be cold and unresponsive to our daughter.

We were at his brother’s house and his brother’s wife has a more detached approach to parenting. No breastfeeding. CIO to sleep. Spanking. I think everyone has a right to parent how they feels best for them but her baby was very aggressive and literally constantly attacking my baby and apparently she does this to all babies. I did feel it could have something to do with the parenting style. Definitely didn’t seem like a happy child.

my husband seemed to like her approach. He kept saying “see, you should be more like that”. Oh Lordy did I give him a piece of my mind when we got home. I told him that her parenting choices aren’t for me, didn’t he see that her baby clearly wasn’t coping(?) and told him not to compare me to other women ever again. Of course, he did the narcissistic shut down.

But yeah, don’t you love when you can see right through narc tactics and don’t fall for them.