am i the only one

am i the only one

backstory- i moved out of the apartment i shared w my ex(n tendencies) just over 2 months ago so our coparenting journey is just beginning. he never really showed interest in our daughter, she was a surprise while we were dating, but both agreed to figure it out and give her a good life. i was aware of his tendencies before becoming pregnant but hoped pregnancy/ birth would wake him up and it didn’t. she was just about a year when i moved out.

his lack of care for her, playing with, and reading to etc made me realize i’m better off being a single mom. i was okay with him being horrible to me i could ignore that but not being present for her is what really made me know it was time to leave. also he is a former drug/alcohol addict but was sober when i met him and has remained sober. did fall into gambling though.

anyway i’m very familiar with the tendencies(my dad & now 2 exs almost check all the box’s) but when it comes to my baby dad to my daughter it’s a new dynamic im not sure of. she lives w me 100% of the time he’s never had an overnight(doesn’t have anything that would make him able) and i don’t trust him alone with her bc he forgets to pay attention to her( i don’t want to give a ridiculous amount of info but i have valid reasons) anyway when he goes on work trips he typically doesn’t reach out much to talk to her doesn’t ask for pics etc. when he does talk it’s for 3 min and then something comes up. he just went on a trip for 5 days that went right into another trip for his step sisters wedding total of 9 days he hasn’t seen her. he facetimed her 2 times total and again for 5 min maybe? today he’s supposed to be flying home but very obviously isn’t on a plane (texts on my end are delivering and calls go through) she’s teething and i know she loves him so i wanted her to be able to talk to him bc he can cheer her up even if he doesn’t genuinely care. all day long he has refused to answer every call and only had excuses of hes busy for why he can’t answer. for someone who cheated in our relationship i know he is back out looking for his next victim, but im heartbroken that he is so okay will ignoring her all day. the rest of his family has already left from the wedding to go home so he’s in another state alone too busy to care. if u made it this far thank you. is this the new norm to expect from him? like now that he may have a new supply he just doesn’t care about her (unless his family is nagging him to see her). i know none of this is predicable but for those who can relate is this going to be more normal? idk my brain is all over.